Children are angels who may not always behave the way we want them to:

Before you had child/ren you thought you will be the best mom, your children will always cooperate and be a sweet little prince/ princess. You knew that there may be hardship and some bumps along the way but nothing too tough for you to handle.

Then came real life. Your little one arrived along with a bundle of joy. You may or may have not read millions of books how to care for him, how to soothe him, and how to nurture.

It worked, well until it didn’t.

Now what? Your little angel aint no angel anymore and his teacher keeps calling with complaints or suggestions.

What are you to do?

What to do when the teacher calls to complain about your precious little one:

First thing know this! When children misbehave they are trying to tell you something they cannot yet express.

Now take a deep breathe and take a look :

• Take a look at what is going on– when is the misbehavior going on? Log the information to see if you see a pattern emerging. It may be as simple as late bedtime, a new school, a specific teacher or even friendship problems.
• Expectations- ask yourself is your child clear and aware of the teachers expectations?  Children may not fully understand what the teacher wants from them and may act out unintentionally. Review the rules and make sure your child knows them.
• Model proper behave at home
• Be in touch with the teacher– your child may have needs that are not accommodated for. Work with the teacher to fulfill them, it can easily be  additional bathroom time or a drink. This can help soothe a nervous or frustrated child.
• Create a plan with the teacher to share with your child, their expectations for them and how your child can fulfill them. Your child may need choices and options.
• Speak to your child– your child may share with you what is going on, empower and emphasize with them if they share their difficulties. Let them know you are there for them.
• Help your child feel success– sometimes their frustration and pain in not understanding the lesson or what is currently being taught may cause them to misbehave. Compliment and praise their effort and have them taste the feeling of success often.
• You may need to get additional outside help for your child– sometimes an outside evaluator or observer can tell you what is going and suggest recommendations how to help your child.

Children may misbehave, yet it is up to you to turn that misbehavior into excellent behavior. Go for it!