How to understand others and support them.
You know it, but you really know it when you see it happening that like attracts like.
You hire those whom generally align to your vision and goals, you prefer to socialize with those whom you feel a kinship with.
You attract those that think like you, and generally walk the walk that you walk.
But what happens when your students and children are different from you?
You are a role model and show others the way when you are in a leadership position.
How do you react? How do you respond?
How do you not bestow your preference on them and let them work on their interests?
It takes strength and it takes skill,not to impose your thoughts and feelings on others.
Step 1. The first step is awareness.
Awareness that we are all different. We all have different needs, different likes and preferences. We all have different strengths. We all go for different things.
Step 2. Respect the differences.
Know that there are differences and that is OK. Differences add to the beauty of our world. We do not want clones. We want people to be different. People are unique.
One you accept that fact that your child(ren) and/or students do not and should not reflect your tastes, needs or wants you can move onto step 3.
Step 3. Assist Others in their Growth
Everyone’s needs are different, help them get there by giving them what they need, not what you want them to need.
Everyone learns differently, if you learn better through visual cues do not assume that your students will too. Allow for auditory and other learning cues to take place.
If you need social conversation to stimulate you that may not be true for others. Other people may need some alone time or down time to stimulate themselves.
Be aware, be open to seek to learn what you can do to help others succeed and shine.
What happens when you do not know what others needs?
- Simply ask them!
2 . You can observe especially when children are younger it is hard to ask, observe them to see their preferences.
Be a leader!
As a leader the same holds true for the staff in your care or as a parent with your children at home.
Everyone has different needs.
- Be aware.
2. Respect them for that.
3. Help them achieve what they can by allowing them to be who they truly are.
Do not influence. Do not mold them into a different shape.
Advantages of choice:
Children need to be taught right from wrong and need to be given instruction, however when there is room for choice, other options or various ways to complete a task allow children, staff or students to choose.
- This will build your children and staff.
- It would allow growth to occur and self esteem to flourish.
- It will build relationships and understanding.